Abandonment/Instability

"The people I love will
inevitably leave me, or
maybe they’ll even die."

Unstable

The expectation that the need for safety, empathy, respect, etc will not be met with any kind of predictability.

Pushes partners away with
clinging, possessive, or
controlling behaviors.

Avoids intimate relationships altogether.

Selects partners who are
unavailable or unpredictable.

I can't be myself or express my real feelings, or everyone will leave me.

If I think someone is pulling away from me, I get desperate.

I always date people who are really unpredictable.

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