Abandonment/Instability

Abandonment/Instability

"The people I love will
inevitably leave me, or
maybe they’ll even die."

  family origin  

Unstable

Domain I

Disconnection and Rejection

The expectation that the need for safety, empathy, respect, etc will not be met with any kind of predictability.

  maladaptive coping 

overcompensation

Pushes partners away with
clinging, possessive, or
controlling behaviors.

avoidance

Avoids intimate relationships altogether.

surrender

Selects partners who are
unavailable or unpredictable.

  typical thoughts  

I can't be myself or express my real feelings, or everyone will leave me.

If I think someone is pulling away from me, I get desperate.

I always date people who are really unpredictable.