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"If others are unhappy, I’m
unhappy, so I’ll give up my
own happiness for others."

  family origin  

Conditional acceptance

Domain IV


The expectation that it's normal to focus excessively on the wants or feelings of others at the expense of one's own wants or feelings, in order to gain love or acceptance.

  maladaptive coping 


Becomes angry at significant others for not reciprocating or for not showing appreciation; Decides to do nothing for others anymore.


Avoids close relationships.


Engages in self-denial; Does too much for others and not enough for themselves.

  typical thoughts  

I feel guilty if I don't put others' needs before my own.

I'm a good person because I think of others more than of myself.

I'm only happy when those around me are happy.

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