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"I don’t want to make anyone else feel bad, so I’ll just do anything they say."

  family origin  

Conditional acceptance

Domain IV


The expectation that it's normal to focus excessively on the wants or feelings of others at the expense of one's own wants or feelings, in order to gain love or acceptance.

  maladaptive coping 


Acts in a passive-aggressive or rebellious manner.


Avoids relationships altogether; Avoids situations in which their wishes are different from those of others.


Chooses dominant, controlling partners; Complies with their wishes.

  typical thoughts  

If I do what I want, I'm asking for trouble.

I get back at people in little ways instead of showing my anger.

I'm basically allergic to confrontation and will do whatever I can to avoid it.

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