Defectiveness/Shame

Defectiveness/Shame

"I am defective and unlovable; if people knew the real me, they’d run screaming."

  family origin  

Rejecting

Domain I

Disconnection and Rejection

The expectation that the need for safety, empathy, respect, etc will not be met with any kind of predictability.

  maladaptive coping 

overcompensation

Behaves in a critical or superior way toward others; Tries to come across as “perfect.”

avoidance

Avoids sharing “shameful”
thought and feelings with
partners due to fear of rejection.

surrender

Chooses critical partners; Puts themselves down.

  typical thoughts  

No one would love me if they saw my defects.

When people like me, it's just because I'm fooling them.

It's my fault if someone can't love me or doesn't like me.